When a research is being done to expose the ‘weakness’ of humans, how many of us would be interested in reading it?
How many of us will truly accept the facts?
There are 2 ways to react to the situation above.
Option 1: decide that we are going to do something about it?
Option 2: deny it and claim to be flawless.
It takes courage for one to admit their flaws and strive to make the necessary changes.
One can argue that it is human nature to judge. That is an undeniable statement, just like the next statement. Our behaviour is shaped mostly by our environment since birth.
Our brain is the only thing that separates us from all the other animals. A person would not be able to have a good grasp of the world if they are just trapped in a jungle or if they’re born centuries ago. We have seen how much we progressed, especially in this century alone. Our ability to think and imagine made it possible. Despite all of this, we have traits similar to animals, like it or not. Some of us dislike it when we are compared to animals. Even today, scientists can come up with experiments and studies to show that we behave the same way as animals if we are placed in certain environments with a setup just for the purpose of the study.
What is beautiful is good, is a powerful statement which is a timeless trait of humans.
What would be your answer to the following question.
Is it logical to judge a person’s intelligence & ability by their looks?
I doubt anyone would say yes to this question.
In reality however, most of us do that, including you and me. Our behaviour cannot be defined in binary terms. It is a spectrum with varying levels of bias. This bias doesn’t happen often in place like an educational institute but it happens all the time in places of entertainment such as nightclubs or social events.
However, I am certain that most of us have come across unattractive people who are fun at parties. Bear in mind that the ‘fun’ person would not have gotten the same attention if they were milder. In other words, unattractive people have to compensate, to a certain extent, to be more visible.
Let’s conduct a thought experiment.
Imagine you’re entering a club & you see a very attractive girl with her average looking girlfriends. If I told you to observe them for an hour or two, what would you notice?
It’s simple to obtain the answer even without having to be physically there. You would see men trying to approach the girl with different approaches. There is only one target in the eyes of the men. The following steps could be a thoughtful approach.
- Approach the group and be friendly
- Make eye contact with everyone
- Attempt to make everyone laugh by doing something silly
- Leave them for a while without losing them in sight
- Come back and slowly inch to the attractive girl.
- Ask for her number, the rest is mystery.
The steps above are not guaranteed and the success rate depends on your looks & the “vibe” you possess. Try it at your own risk 😉
What would be the final goal for most of these men? Most likely it would be merely physical. This could be degrading to the attractive girl as she is purely seen as an object of desire. This objectification applies to men as well.
The target is the most visible, while the others are mostly invisible throughout the night. It is disrespectful if someone uses the tool to get to the target. In this case, being close to one of the other girls just to get closer to the target. Do these men think about the pain they would inflict on the girl who is just seen as a tool? Sadly not. What matters is for them to attain their goal. Do we view him as “such a heartless man?”
Let’s take a step back and think about it in a parallel perspective. If you’re starving in a jungle and you finally found something to eat, would you think about giving it to someone as hungry as you?
Awareness might not be good for business 🙂
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